All Change
I’ve not been around much lately. This is not because – as some of you may suspect – I have been holed up in my lair with only a dildo for company. It’s good, but it’s not THAT good. Nope.
Not been around cos of Moo, innit. The little minx has dropped her afternoon nap, and decided that bedtime is for losers. I’ve been battling on an epic scale to get her into her cot each evening, and despite me throwing everything in my arsenal at her, it has been a proper clash of wills and a few times, it felt like she was winning. Moo – WINNING. And I hate losing. Hate it. I don’t lose, if I can help it. But to be bested by my 22 month old daughter feels particularly galling. I think, sometimes, just the fact that she was utterly exhausted meant that I triumphed. It is a bittersweet victory though, cos I’m farking knackered too, all the bloody time, innit.
So it’s all change here, I’m afraid. My current strategy of Do A Lot Of Physical Activity During The Day So That The Rambunctious Toddler Is Farking Shattered By Dinnertime seems to be working so far. Sadly it leaves me very little room for blogging and other online shenanigans, especially as my evenings will be taken up with play rehearsals as well, the further into September/October we go. Previous to this evening, I had not checked my emails since Saturday. SATURDAY! FFS. This is alien to me. And I’d barely surfaced on Twitter. My stats for motherventing are abysmal. Which irks me. A bit. Sigh.
But, y’know. Life is life, as someone wise once said. Maybe this is a wake up call and I need to accept that I can’t commit to an online existence of such scale (and really, if I’m honest, compared to some bloggers, I hardly scratch the surface) while my daughter is this young and needs my attention. Maybe I’ve immersed myself within this medium to such an extent that I’m losing sight of what matters. What is this blog, anyway? It’s not a job, it’s not furthering a career – it’s a hobby, an online diary, that I use for myself, and yeah, I get great page views if I blog on a daily basis, but now I no longer have the opportunity to do that, is it worth it me castigating myself about this? Nah. Not so much.
I love blogging. I do. It’s a form of expression which suits me greatly. I may not be everyone’s cup of hot chocolate and to be honest, I don’t really care what the haters think of me, they can suck on it and fark off while they’re there. And then fark off a little bit further. Yet as much as I love blogging, I’m backing off a bit. Just a smidge. I have a toddler to tame and she’s feisty. Once I’ve worked out what makes her tick, and I can deal with her, I’ll be back on it like a car bonnet. You wait and see.
All change, then. Change is good. Change is healthy. *sweats a bit* So I don’t blog every day, yeah? *twitches*
Oh fark.
How often is enough for you? Can blogging get stale if done every day?
You are right, it’s getting that balance and not being a slave to the blog. Quality time with Moo, is far more important than site sats. Moo may have dropped a nap, but you’ll get more mummy time later, somehow? Please don’t go completely.
No, I love blogging too much to give it all up, and how else would I vent?! But you’re right, quality time – esp when Moo is going through this tricky stage – is much more vital. Thanks for commenting
I try and blog once or twice a week if i can but like you i have my little girl to contend with plus a moaning husband if im on my laptop too much (Love it when he works late, laptop and my choice of tv)
HaHa!! Sometimes a MoVo has just got to do she can do *Mwah* xxx
what she can do, sorry missed that word!! xx
I’ve been putting myself under so much pressure, it’s crazylegs to think that I can maintain a blog daily as well as have a real life and be a good parent to a toddler. I am just doing what I have to do, innit
x
It’s better to have a real life that every now and then stops you from blogging, then having a blog life that every now and then stops you from living.
Right?
Right. You are so WISE.
I did wonder how you managed to keep it up – of course, the afternoon nap! If it makes you feel any better my 3 year old-in-less-than-a-week dropped her nap for about 8 months then suddenly took it up again (thank the gods!) – but do I blog with it? Nah. I aim to write once a week, sometimes two – and I probably write what I consider a ‘good’ post once every 4-6 weeks (yeesh). I’m past caring about stats, rarely check ‘em, and I can reassure you that the twitching doesn’t last very long.
Out there is healthy and healthy is good
Yay! That’s what I want to hear. About Moo starting to nap again, that is
No, really, I think this is the best choice for me at this time. When Moo is in pre-school or whatever, then maybe I’ll become a blogging fiend again. Who knows. Or I might do something else? Crochet? Whaling? Vulcanology?
I used to Livejournal EVERYDAY, then the big cataclysm in my life happened and I stopped it. So now I blog with writing, since I pretty much keep everyone up to date with facebook. But then I blog with writing when I’ve written something, and that’s not a lot at the moment since the little laptop got smooshed…..:(
So I read yours instead!
And Fran, I adore you, but the first line, wasn’t…very…Fran-ish….my world has been shaken…>.>
LMAO bless you, Lord C of A. Soz about the first line. We won’t mention it again. Ahem.
Oh geez, you see how many comments you have already? I’m sure your lack of blogging hardly even dints anything! You’re loved for everything you post whether it’s every day or once in a blue moon.
I gave up blogging for a while, my posts were getting rooobish. But now I am back…. from outer space, la da de da de de da de dum de dum sad look upon your face
So erm yeah, I’m dreading when toddler stops her naps, she’s 23 months and we had a rough patch at 21/22 months but now I’ve managed to wear her down again.
I have wordpress on my phone, so while she’s eating I tend to ramble and start my posts
Best of luck m’dear xxxx
Thanks doll. I have a fab readership and I’d be sad to lose them. You included. Keep on keeping on
xxx
good for you! I’ve eased up a lot on the blogging, twittering and what not. (I have a small addiction to instagram, but I only follow 50 people not to be overwhelmed by things). Luckily G still sleeps at lunch and I use the time to work out and feel better. The blog stats are suffering but I don’t actually care too much. Like you said ‘It’s not a job, it’s not furthering a career’
Enjoy your daughter and your rehearsals! and let’s try to arrange proper meet ups rather than spending hours and hours on twitter, what do you say?
Yeah baby! Blogs can wait, everything’s cyclical, sooner or later the passion for it will come back round again and hopefully I’ll have more time and resources to pay full attention. Meet ups sound GREAT, y’all come to Bristol
I was wondering where you’d got to as I was vacuuming my corners this afternoon. Real life is better that cyber life – not that the latter isn’t affirming and stimulating, but it can take over a bit. A twice or thrice a week blog suits me very well, otherwise I can’t keep up with people’s updates. You can always jot notes in a book while swinging Moo in the playground and use it as a diary or a draft for future posts.
Absolutely missus. This is my plan. Gotta focus on the properly important things. Hope you are well.
I’m tempted to say that getting out, and about, with your wee child is good for the mental well being of both of you.
But with Moo testing you for every minute, I’m not entirely sure that’s true.
And yes, blogging can easily get stale if you do to much of it. I’ve cut right back, myself.
I noticed, m’dear. And no worries about Moo, keeping her busy is the key, I think. I hope. Otherwise she’s won. *weeps*
Oh and I used to worry about my stats but then I thought – arse – who cares if someone in Romania looked at my blog for probably a milli-second and didn’t understand a farking word anyway. I love reading your blog and I will love reading it if it’s everyday or once a month. People who really enjoy it will find it. You don’t need to do it everyday to have loyal readers.
Thank you. You’re right, of course. I love my readers, would never want to let them down
You never could. Even if you never blog again you have given the world the word fark. That is your legacy. Farking genius. By the way – it’s just a farking phase ( dodges giant laser) xx
*blows you kisses* *also throws a ninja star or two*
xx
It will be fine, I blog only occasionally and I find that I need to be inspired by something before I can write. I love reading your blogs, you are defo my cup of hot chocolate (so long as there is whipped cream and a flake as well). Perhaps you could blog about toddler taming once a week just to show us all you are still alive? I believe that toddlers are put on this earth to prepare us for teenagers – oh, you didn’t know that???? never mind, they do sleep then, usually when you want them to be awake!
LOL I’m sure I’ll blog about Moo’s escapades, she’s turning into a right little diva. It’ll make for great blog material
Hoorah live in the real world my lovely!! Although you know I am a total philistine when it comes to the online world. Putting photos on Facebook so my Dad and my Aunt can see them is about as far as it goes for me!
LMAO maybe I should introduce you to Twitter…?
I used to aim to blog twice a week but I’m lucky if I do it twice a month now. And blog. Innit! Toddler are farking exhausting. Farking fact. Mine is 30 months and as strong as an ox so bedtime struggles are an arse. However at around Moo’s age my boy dropped his afternoon nap. It is now back with a vengeance so don’t give up hope. It’s just a stage they go through as smug annoying people tend to say. Hugs and that.
If I hear ‘it’s just a phase’ one more time… *fires up giant laser*
I find that if I blog every day, I run out of things to blog and end up blogging about nothing in particular. I’ve been lucky though and Flower has only just dropped her afternoon nap and she’s not three till October. All I can say is hang in there. Stick with your previous bedtime routine because she’s just trying to push her boundaries. Stand your ground and don’t give in! If she fights bed time, walk out and let her scream. It won’t do her any harm, but staying there and negotiating with her will only frustrate you.
Don’t give up for the sake of all us mothers who are standing our ground with you!
Yes ma’am! I won’t give up, no fear. Just calming it down. Like you say, don’t want to run out of things to blog about.
It’s quality, not quantity m’dear. And you gots bags of quality so don’t fret! People will stick around when the stuff is as entertaining as your writing.
Thanks, what a lovely thing to say
I have no idea how you managed to do it every day! My mind just can’t think of anything to write that often. I have taken a big break over the last few weeks and I have to say I have really enjoyed it. I am looking forward to putting a bit more time in again but I think I will aim for around 2-3 posts a week. I am on Twitter quite a lot though as I am sat on my arse quite a lot and get bored. You will find the right balance again
xx
LOL thanks missus. It can get a bit all-consuming, can’t it. And Twitter is great for socialising but even that’s been pissing me off lately. xx